Before a Dynasty is built a blueprint is constructed, before you have complete happiness you have to know what that looks like to you!
The Allure twist not your mother’s conversation typically our mothers wanted for us to have a husband a dog and a white picket fence! Here is the thing that is a great way to speak to a child at the age of five. The seed planted in order to create the vision or blueprint in the malleable mind.
As we progress into adulthood we begin to understand why it is important to know exactly what you want.
Have you ever dated a guy and thought he was exactly what you wanted and a couple days or months later you’re with your ladies saying what I was thinking?
Just nick picking him apart. Is that because when you just bumped into this guy you did not think about your mental checklist even the small things. Is there any such thing as small when you it pertains to your happiness? Did you even have a checklist?
Who do you want in control of your dynasty? Not everything is for everybody.
You need to DESIGN ON PAPER YOUR HAPPINESS BLUEPRINT down to the length of his fingertips to the sole of his shoes.
You may be a woman who can deal with a man that has sport length finger nails, however that may creep another woman out! What kind of woman are you? more of the short length almost numb nail female.. If so, write that down…
Another thing shoes! As stated before they are important to women in preceding blogs and the shoes a man wears for different occasions says something about him! Maybe you’re a woman who can deal with Kenneth Cole being worn for work, dinner with you, out with friends, and to a sporting event… Yeah no not so much… If you’re a woman that has different sides she may want a man to switch it up a bit… Those Kenneth Coles do not go well with those Isabel Marant wedge sneakers hanging out on the weekends.
Maybe you’re a woman during the week you might J.Crew it up, banana republic, The Limited, keeping it classy yet modern trendy for the work week, but on the weekend you want to let your hair down a baby tee some Victoria secret sweat pants changing gears. You might need a man with the same versatility…
When it comes to your ultimate happiness and the creation of your Dynasty trust me it’s okay to sweat the small stuff! You Only Get One Shot!!
Outside the grooming, the fashion, does he keep his car clean, and does he come over looking for things that might be broken so that he can be your knight and shining amour while he is there?
You need to determine what do you want his mental to be capable of handling?
This is Muy IMPORTANTE!
Do you want a man that if it’s not sunny is he complaining or do you want someone who through the storm can see the silver lining.
In life we come across valleys and peeks when something does not go as planned does he brushes it off. As if it doesn’t matter or do you want someone that is not only solving the problem, but ensuring the solution prevents the same problem from reoccurring in his life.
Maybe you’re a woman of great RISK and you like to live on the edge of not knowing if your lights will be turned on when you get home every day. Then you may love the reactive man versus the PROACTIVE man… There is someone for everyone. However, if you are somewhat of a planner and you set goals that are determined by completing some type of strategy then you are going to have to focus and write down in plain ( insert your name) terms as to what your Dynasty, and happiness will look like clearly defined..
To get you started: Grab a notebook, pen, a glass of wine (optional) turn on your favorite music, clear your mind…
Ask yourself what as a woman can you deal with? Can you deal with stress that a man can’t handle, and is placed on you to pick up the slack? Or do you expect him to step up another level and deal with life for not only himself but for you as well? Do you want a provider? Do you want to be adored? It is okay ladies to sit down cross your legs sit up straight shoulders back and look very delicate, even a rose has thorns for protection in their natural surroundings as do we, however let’s remember our place in nature is to be who we truly are! Beautiful delicate creatures!
Now As you listen to music and allow your mind to let your pen flow freely with your thoughts. Can you see him clearly? Don’t cheat yourself treat yourself. Does he look like Justin Timberlake and Jay Z suit and Tie…? You owe it to yourself not to settle, but first you have to identify your worth, then you will not fall for anything that you feel you have to settle for.
If the man that you are currently seeing is not anything like the vibe in your mind created on notebook paper chances are you’re not living your best life!
Share your feelings your thoughts your ideas your hopes your dreams if your companion is not with you 100% then honey let him do his thing and slide out and do your thing!
And when you meet the man of your dreams that you wrote down on paper he will show up and illuminate the room and the love in his life. His dreams include you. Love is a slow process and the essence of knowing who you are makes the perfect marriage.
Happiness is our entire pursuit, however you will always swim against the current never gaining much ground if you do not know exactly what you stand for and what you stand against!
SO LIVE IT TO THE LIMIT AND LOVE IT ALOT! 
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