The art of seduction, does it strengthen the relationship?
Now that’s a pretty way of packaging when a guy suggests that the bond between man and woman is strengthened through physical connection.
A survey from Allure men readers and thank you to all those who provided feedback showed the following results:
Question: Do you believe that while dating a woman you should be intimate? If so, do you believe it will strengthen your relationship?
Top Responses :
- Yes, and it takes the relationship to a higher level of interest for that female.
- No, if the female wants to wait I can wait her out if she has all the other qualities I am looking for.
- Yes, we are not children if we have a great relationship we should be able to be intimate and continue to grow with each other.
- Yes, if she wants to be with me that is one of the deciding factors if she and I can connect on that level.
The Allure Twist: NOT YOUR MOTHERS CONVERSATION.
Mothers warn daughters about guys who try to sweet talk on the first date or after a few dates, and the one night stand. However based on the responses who graciously provided their male perspective there are more subjects to tackle than just those.
The “Gentlemen” Charm: The modern bachelor that is fully aware that a woman does not want to come across as loose by starting an intimate relationship with a man she barely knows. The gentlemen will use his alluring masculine characteristics by listening to her, and engaging her in conversations that are heavily rooted in the “positive” aspects of having an intimate relationship with a great man while still just in the dating phase. This will be a reoccurring topic every time the lights dim or until she caves into his charming eloquent illustrations of the benefits of how wonderful it will be.
The “Waiting” Gamer: This modern man seems to have the patience of Job while dating a woman. He appears to be understanding and not at all pressuring the woman of his interest to have an intimate relationship. However, although months have gone by and his presumably respectfulness towards “waiting” has been all but a game, because while he is patient with you he is gaming another woman.
The “Playboy” : He is so chill and cool you could just be hanging out and having a great time than ” Bam” So we been hanging out for sometime I’m attracted to you and your attracted me then the lean in…. The Playboy is just that playful in his approach with getting you to a comfortable unsuspecting “yes” to being intimate.
Fellas, these approaches are flawed! What is the big deal with just waiting instead of going through the process getting women comfortable with pre-marital sex why not just be more selective with the women you are thinking about starting a relationship with.
Let’s say you try the Allure way and skip all the but baby really its still respectful, and us having to laugh respectfully and say it’s not, but flattered just the same, because we are into you DUH!!
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January 23rd, 2013 at 1:39 pm
From a man’s point of view…a woman should wait as long as possible. Rather that be having sex..shacking up(old folks talk)..sharing bank accounts. A real man kinda likes a Chase..giving in too easy takes away what a man loves..a challenge. No man wants to tell his boys..”she gave up the ass quick and moved right in” not a good look.
February 9th, 2013 at 9:00 pm
When I was a child, I spoke like a child and acted like a child. But when I became a man, I put away childish things! A young man spends his time chasing sex. A man spends his time building a legacy. Being stable by focusing on what’s really important. If a man takes care of his responsibilities the woman will come. Stop trying to put so much energy in “Gaming” the female. Let your actions speak for themselves. Then she won’t have to worry if your being real, she will know you are. Then you will build an authentic, long lasting relationship.
R.W.
February 15th, 2013 at 4:10 pm
Women want to be protected; men were made to protect women. So how can a man do his designated job properly if he puts himself, his desires first? True love and commitment is characterized by putting the other person first in a relationship.